In case you’re new here, you should know… I don’t do New Year’s Resolutions. I make “birthday lists”… It’s a list of things I want to accomplish before my next birthday.
So here you have it… 38 things I plan to accomplish before I turn 38.
Establish ‘dates’ with the boys. I know a few people who do this with their kids and I think it’s a great idea. I know the boys benefit from some one-on-one time with each of us (Al and me)…. so Al and I agreed to try to setup some time to give them that.
Read a book at the same time as Al so we can talk about it. It could help get us away from talking about just work and the kids. lol
Host a family dinner. Al and I have been talking about doing this for a long time. Things keep getting in the way. I want to host a family dinner at our house. It’ll be entirely vegetarian.
Take the kids roller skating. A friend of mine posted pictures recently from taking her kids roller skating and it looked like they had such a good time. I think the boys would love this.
Pick one of Al’s shows and watch it with him. Al watches a dozen or so TV shows that I won’t watch (mostly Marvel type shows). He loves these shows… so I decided I will try one. I will watch it, despite my previous objections. I want to try to be more involved in the things he likes.
Take kids to a sporting event. A hockey game, a baseball game, a soccer game… whatever. We have several sports teams here in Austin. Al and I used to like going to these… I want to take a shot at introducing the boys to it.
Send three care packages, for no reason. I know I love it when my friends send me random gifts for no reason. I will pay it forward.🙂
Go out (without kids) with friends five times. This doesn’t sound a lot, but it takes a real effort on my part to let go of the guilt of enjoying myself without the boys… but it’s good for my mental health. Also, I miss Arianna.🙂
Have a quilt made with the boys’ baby clothes. I have two giant plastic tubs full of clothes that the boys have outgrown. We’re not going to have another baby, but I’m not able to part with all of those clothes. There are places that will make quilts out of old baby clothes (or tshirts or whatever). I want to do that.
Learn the words to two more lullabies: one English and one Spanish. The boys love it when I sing to them at bedtime (despite my complete lack of talent). But they like variety. Our nanny knows a million songs and the boys love that. I want to make an effort to learn at least two more. One should be in Spanish because I want them to know that I think it’s important that our whole family keep practicing that skill.
Redecorate Cody’s room. Cody’s room is decorated with planes and cars. Those are things *I* liked for him. He’s old enough now where he has very distinct interests of his own. He wants it to be decorated with planets/space and “math”… hehe. So I will make that happen.
Decorate our bedroom. We’ve been in this house almost four years, and our bedroom still looks like we just moved in. I want to make it more inviting. Especially now that I work from our bedroom… it should be a place that makes me happy.
Clean out the office. Our office (where Al works) is the room where we put everything we don’t know what to do with. It’s a mess. It’s got piles and piles of … stuff. If nothing else, I need to go through it and purge all the junk. Organizing things would be a bonus.
Update the photos on the staircase. The boys grow so fast. I need to update the pictures on the staircase wall with more current pictures.
Get car detailed. My car is in desperate need of a deep clean. This will make me happy.
Build a fire in the fireplace. I love sitting in front of a fireplace when it’s cold. We’ve never built a fire in this house. Carter’s never seen a fire in our fireplace and Cody doesn’t remember the old house. When it gets cold again, I should do this.
Take a vacation. Last year’s vacation with the kids was such a success… I want to keep that going. Maybe we’ll try to take them on a plane this year…
Get a massage. For me. Just because. Damnit.
Take a kickboxing class. This sounds like a really fun thing. Exercise + beating the shit out of something? Awesome.
Stop drinking caffeine with dinner. I drink way too much iced tea. And I don’t sleep well, as it is. I should try to drink less caffeine in the evening.
Take one step toward being vegan. One week, minimum. We tried some vegan cheese. It was gross. But I think we could cut out cow’s milk and replace it with soy/almond/something. Maybe I’ll try another brand of vegan cheese. Or get egg substitutes. One step. That’s all I’m asking here.
Ride my bike. It’ll be good exercise and start getting me into shape for when the kids want to take bike rides. Right now, I can just barely keep up with Cody on his tricycle when I walk…. this is coming sooner, rather than later.
Get plants. Teach boys to help me with them. I am horrible with plants. I’ve killed “unkillable” plants. But having plants around is good for you. And having the boys help me care for them will teach them good life skills, too. We’ll learn together.
Get lasik surgery. My eyesight seems to have leveled out the last few years and I’m sick and tired of forgetting my glasses when I need them.
Improve flexibility (vague, I know). I want to work on pilates, yoga, stretching, etc. I want to just make this a habit and make improvements in this area. I’ll decide, as I go along, what constitutes “complete” for this one.
Do something scary that Al wants to do. ie. zip lining, hang gliding, etc. It’s good to do something scary, every now and again.
Start a collection. I read that this is good for being more ‘zen.’ I have no idea what I’d collect. Maybe rocks that the kids give me. hehe. Something. I’ll come up with something.
Get some dressier clothes. If I had to go to a wedding, funeral, or job interview tomorrow, I’d be screwed. I work from home. I have two young kids. I don’t have nice clothes. I’d like a few pieces, at least.
Go star gazing. This is something Al and I both love. I remember laying on the ground at Big Bend National Park with him, just looking at the stars and talking. Well, there are a handful of places we could go in the Austin area for this…we just need to plan well for an extra long date night or something.
Make Dad’s potato candy. When I was a kid, my Dad made this candy made out of potatoes, a TON of sugar, and peanut butter. It was soooo good. I’d rather he be here to make it, but… since that’s not an option, I’ll take a shot at it. It’ll be a good opportunity to talk to the kids about Dad, too.
Finish scrap (knit) blanket. I started knitting a blanket from my scrap stash. It’s a bunch of random sized pieces that I’ll sew together in the end. But we all know how I am about finishing projects like this….
Make vegan smores. Making smores is something every kid should do. But marshmallows aren’t vegetarian. They make vegan ones. And Mom sometimes builds fires outside at her house. We should get those two things together.
Create a font of my handwriting. I read this on someone else’s list and thought it sounded cool.
Catalog personal items for after my death. Little things that aren’t in the will… like, the diamond ring from my Mom… my Dad’s whiskey flask, etc.
Finish my ‘Wreck’ journal. One of the items I didn’t complete from last year’s list. I like my Wreck journal because it pushes me to be more creative than I normally am.
Learn to crochet (enough to do a border on a blanket). This shouldn’t be hard, right?
Write a piece of poetry. I was talking to Cody the other day about the goals I had for my life, when I was younger. I told him that I used to love writing poetry. I even found my portfolio from a college class I took on it. And I wondered why I stopped writing. I don’t know. I should write more.
Write a blog post for every completed item. I want to blog more, but leaving it up to just random inspiration doesn’t seem to be working. So I aim to blog about everything I complete on this list.